I stared at this quote for quite a while. It sat there on my screen and it just made me wonder whether I agree or disagree with it. There were other things I could write about, I didn’t have to choose this one. Yet it had my focus.
I often take part in Friday Reflections, in fact truth be told (and you would know this if you have followed my blog for quite a while) I was co-ceator of Friday Reflections. Myself and another blogger started it and now some other beautiful and very inspirational women run it and I am so grateful they took it over. Each fortnight they provide writing prompts and whoever wants to write on one of them can do so and share what they have written. Anyway my point is that there were 5 prompts this week, but one grabbed my attention, it was a quote by Friedrich Nietzsche, it reads
“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”
I can see what the writer is saying in this quote, friendship is so important in a marriage, truly being there for each other and showing each other support. I guess it depends on the exact definition of friendship. I believe a good friendship is based on mutual respect, to me a true friendship is full of trust and knowing that each of you have the others best interests at heart. But then isn’t that what love is?
For me friendship can not exist without love. Casual relationships and acquaintances can exist without love, but for me when I call someone a true ‘friend’ it is because I have love for them, I care about their happiness and well being. So for me friendship and love are intertwined, so if your marriage lacks friendship it lacks love. And if it lacks love then it lacks friendship.
For me marriage is more than a friendship though. Yes it has all the good ingredients a friendship has, love, respect, trust, caring, laughter, and fun. But it is a deeper love, for me it is also about passion and attraction, and an intimacy physically, spiritually and emotionally that goes deeper than it does with any one else.
I believe that a marriage needs love and it needs the elements of friendship, I believe these are intertwined and without both of these things a marriage would be unhappy. I also believe that we need to feel worthy of that love. We need to love ourselves and believe that we deserve happiness in order to have healthy relationship. What do you believe? What do you think of this quote?
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The Friday Reflections prompt I chose was “It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche Use this quote in a post or as an inspiration for one.