Sometimes all we can do is listen. We can’t fix things, we can’t make it better, we can’t stop the hurt, we just have to be there, be silent and listen.
One of the hardest things we have to do is see someone we love in pain. We want to fix it, to somehow say the magic words to help ease their pain, but we can’t. As a mother seeing my children hurt is so very hard. I want to wrap them up in my arms and protect them from all the heartache that the world can bring and somehow fill their days with sunshine and happiness. But the harsh truth is, not even a parent can fix everything.
A little over a week ago, just before Easter my daughter Aspen finally had her wish come true. For almost a year she has worked towards proving to us that she is responsible enough to have a bunny rabbit of her every own. She has had a drawing of a bunny on her vision board and has been reading all she can on owning a bunny, a mini lop to be precise. Finally her dream was a reality as she welcomed Roxy, a little 9 week old mini lop Doe into her life, and her heart.
She was filled with happiness.
Roxy stole all our hearts, how could she not! She loved cuddles and was happiest hoping around our living room,
or snuggling with her dad Batman.
When we adopted Roxy, they were in search for a new home for Batman, he is an ex show bunny champion and is retired.
So of course we adopted him too!
Today was April’s 9th birthday and she woke up super excited! The girls were lying in bed giggling. My hubby came in and told me the sad news, Roxy had passed away in the night. I went to check and there she was lying with her sad daddy, she was gone and I had to break the news to Aspen. How do you tell a child that their pet has passed away? We went through this a year ago almost to the day, Aril ,lost her kitten a couple of days before her 8th birthday, and now a year later Aspen has lost her bunny.
Aspen was excited when she came out she was all set to rush and see Roxy, I had to tell her the news. I won’t go into her sadness too much as I know she would want it private, but she was devastated!!!!! April’s birthday didn’t quite turn out the happy day it should have been. We tried to make the most of it. But today has been a rollercoaster of a day, and we say goodbye to gorgeous little Roxy who stole our hearts in the 9 days we spent with her. Having Batman is a comfort, but Roxy will be missed.
There was nothing I could say to take her pain away, I just had to listen as she sobbed and told me it was unfair, and asked why? A why I couldn’t give an answer to, sometimes we just don’t know why. Sometimes things don’t make sense! Sometimes life does seem unfair. Sometimes all we need is for someone to let us cry, someone to just to sit there with us in silence and let us cry. Loss is hard, it sucks, it’s unfair
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39 comments
It’s such a hard lesson! And one we learn over and over again through life. Love while you can. Completely with your whole heart.
Thank you Marie xx
Hi there, lovely lady! I just saw your tweet and thank you so much for thinking to include me in your link up! I would LOVE to join in!
I am out and about right now, and I want to be distraction free when reading your post, so I’ll sit down and enjoy that, as well as link up one of my posts, right when I get home!
Thank you again for inviting me to your link up. I really do appreciate it🌺
you are welcome xx
That is so sad, but I’m glad you had time together before she passed. Gorgeous photos as always xx
I am so glad we took the time to take these photos before what happened. She wants me to fame one for her bedroom. Thanks for linking up to Em xx
Oh how sad, she must be devastated. I remember my rabbit dying at easter when I was a child too. We associate bunnies with easter so finding her dead wasn’t the best! #mg
Xx
She has been even more upset today, it is hard when they lose a pet.
Oh my word, I read your post almost 10 minutes ago and I am STILL crying. Your poor sweet girl. Bless her dear heart.
And I know I am not a mother yet, but my heart was seriously hurting for your daughter (and for the poor bunny), so I can’t even imagine how hard it must’ve been for you.
I’m so sorry you all had to go through that.
Not to change the subject, but thank you very much for hosting this link up. Now, I promise I will come back and visit tomorrow so I can check out some of the other awesome linked up posts. But I have to get my booty to bed. It’s almost 4 am and I don’t want to be a completely useless blob tomorrow!
Hope you’re having a wonderful day:-) #mg
Thank you for your thoughts Katie, I am sorry it made you cry though. My daughter has been so upset, and it is so hard seeing her like that and knowing that I can’t just kiss it better. Thanks again for your caring comment xx
Oh gosh this is do sad! Loosing a pet is horrible, my cat died last year, I’m 24 and I cried my eyes out and was devastated for weeks. You are so right though, sometimes we just need a loved one to be there for comfort, they don’t need to say anything they just need to be there. So sorry for your loss, Roxy looks like a gorgeous little bunny xx #mg p.s thanks for featuring me
Thank you for your thoughts and kind words, and so sorry about your cat that is so sad xx
This is so sad its awful losing a pet they are part of your family. I hope you’re all bearing up ok. xx #bigpinklink
Thanks lovely xx
I’m so sorry for your little girl’s loss. It must be so hard to see her so upset. Whatever happened, Roxy will have had a wonderful 9 days with you, and at least she was very much loved in that short precious time.
Dawn x
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Thanks so much for your kind message xx
Oh man, I know what you are going through trying to explain that to your daughter. My boys’ grandmother (on their father’s side) had to put down her Golden Retriever a couple months ago because it was the third time she got cancer. She was 14 years old when she passed but it was hard for my 9 year old. Things started to look up when their grandmother got a kitten from a local shelter. Turns out the kitten was a 9 year old cat with kidney disease and she passed away in the night. The vet was able to tell the age of the cat and what she died of but when I broke the news to Conner, he was devastated and asked all of the same questions your daughter asked and repeatedly said, “it’s not fair!” I found myself in the same situation I was when he was 3 years old and I had to break the news that his favorite person, his godfather had passed away but now that he’s older and understands death a little more, it seems harder to break the news. Happy birthday to your girl! I hope things get better for them soon and thanks for hosting #mg
I’m in love with them.
I don’t think our cat would enjoy the competition, though.
Thank you so much for hosting the link party!
Have a fabulous week, MG.
surprisingly our dag and cats love having a bunny, they get on really well
Oh poor April! I’m so sorry to hear this as I truly think pets are family. and for it to happen on her birthday is just so sad. You’re absolutely right though — I’m sure the best thing to do is give her space to process the sadness, tough though it is. Big hugs to your brave girl !
What a visual treat, Mc! Thank you for tagging me! I’ll try and join in tomorrow. Hugs! What a pretty badge!
Ugh! I hit publish before I finished writing my comment – sorry. Hugs to your daughter.
Thank you lovely xx
So sad :(. You are right though, sometimes you just have to listen. We don’t have the answer for everything, and children need to learn that. Big hugs for April. xo
Oh your poor daughter. It’s such a shame you only had a little time with Roxy. But at least Roxy and Batman were together. It’s a hard life lesson and not one that anyone enjoys.
Sally @ Life Loving
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Oh this is so sad for you all. I think just letting her cry and be frustrated is the best way. The grief process is a funny thing and hopefully she can feel better soon. Bless xx #twinklytuesday
How heartbreaking 🙁 I’m glad you had some time with her before you had to say goodbye. Lot’s of love,
Em xXx
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I thought I posted before, but something must have happened.
So very sad to hear :(. You are right though, sometimes listening is the best thing. Our kids need to learn that we don’t have an answer for everything. It’s a valuable lesson. Big hugs to April #twinklytuesday
How sad! And what a day for it to happen. Loss is a horrible thing to go through, especially for a child when they don’t quite understand why, and as a parent answering those questions is really difficult.
Ah poor little Roxy. It’s awful how these things happen. It must be so hard for Aspen & the rest of your family to come to terms with it. Loss is so hard & you are right there really is no way to explain it. It’s good you took batman as well! #MG x
Oh gosh I am so sorry to hear about your little Roxy, how devastating. It is so hard to explain loss to a child and yet they are so resilient. We lost our second son when my eldest was just two years old and in that way, he has grown up knowing grief and loss with an understanding of death. My youngest three have never experienced that and I do worry about when the day comes that they learn the harsh reality, I guess we will just deal with it when it happens. Thanks for sharing. #TwinklyTuesday
Silent/Listen – love that, never noticed. And you can’t listen without being silent. So sorry for your daughters loss =(
Hi Mac, I finally arrived at your link up and I’m so pleased it was this particular week, because your post touches on such an important issue in our lives. The feeling of being helpless to stop someone else’s pain teaches us so much. As a mother this is particularly powerful because you want to protect, and suddenly that option isn’t there. I find it that at moments like these the clutter, fuss and background noise of everyday life just stops. And in the silence you find 2 fragile human beings, one child, one adult, bewildered by the world, holding onto one another . Our most primal form of connection is being together, and this is never more important than when we are hurting.
Thank you for sharing such an intimate moment with us, with love, Lisa x
you are so right Lisa, thank you for your support xx
Oh gosh, what a shock, and an awful thing to happen for your daughters birthday… And a double shock because the same thing had happened a year before… It must be terrible to see your child so upset, and not be able to take the pain away, and have answers to their questions of ‘why.’ I can still remember vividly the pain of losing pets when I was little, and my children are just beginning to get interested in the concept of pets, so they will have to go through the same one day… Sending thoughts and hugs. xx
Thanks for sharing with #bigpinklink
thank you for your lovely comment, it means a lot xx
Aw that’s so sad.
Oh no! 🙁 This makes me so so very sad. I hope April will get lots of comfort from Batman. Much love, xxx
thanks so much xx
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