Do you ever have one of those mornings where you just want to get ready in peace? Where your children, (or fur children) seem to have a NEED to be right in your personal space, and you just think to yourself . . .
- “why can’t I just get ready with a little bit of dignity?”
- “Is it really that fascinating to watch me in the shower?”
- “Is it really that hard to find your own sock?”
- “Can you just brush your own hair?”
- “Can I pee on own, please?!!!”
- “Do you have to have a meltdown now?”
I think that children, and pets feed off our energy too. Whenever I am in extra need of personal space, you know because it would be nice to have some personal space once in a while! If I haven’t had enough sleep and I am a bit grumpy, or if I am running late and my hair will not do what I want it to do, these are the moments they seem to have emotional meltdowns too. It is like the whole house fills up with some weird energy source that says All Members Of This Household Must Now Meltdown!
I swear this is what happens. Like this morning, I felt so tired, that alarm this morning was sent to torture me (it’s true it told me so). Still little man comes in for his 20 minute hug, yes 20 minutes, he times it. I love it, it is adorable, but this morning whilst hugging his sweet little body I was so comforted that I kept falling asleep. This however is against the rules as he happily reminded me over and over, the hug doesn’t count if I fall asleep, it is true ask anyone.
Finally I got my tired self, eyes heavy, and head heavier out of bed, only to have teenager dive onto my bed in misery. She is having a hard time, see post here for reason, (It is a very valid reason). I spent another 20 minutes consoling her, but that was not enough time, and I know it isn’t, but we have school to get to. As you can guess it just all seemed to keep spiralling, lost socks, massive knots in hair, tears from teen, teen getting snappy at tween therefore making tween want to cry, whilst little man decided that to find lost sock he had to put every other pair of socks he owned all around the room. (Side note, I had actually laid out a pair of school socks the night before so we would be organised, apparently it disappeared down the hole, you know the one that steals socks, or we could blame the dog of course)!
I found the missing sock, did the hair, wiped the tears, and had no time to blow dry my own hair, or to apply makeup, I made sure everyone besides me was fed, and found little man brushing his teeth whilst playing with a toy.
“Can you pop down the toy whilst you brush your teeth please?”
“It is called multitasking!” He informed me.
“Um yes, but not when both hands are playing with the toy whilst toothbrush sits in your mouth not actually performing any brushing.”
I wanted to scream, instead I took a deep breath, sang silly songs to make them laugh and got them to school somehow on time, still with my hair and makeup not done.
Thanks for joining me, love Mackenzie
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19 comments
haha, yes it is impossible with children to find privacy, although I remember doing this to my own mum, maybe it is payback #tweensteensbeyond
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I feel your pain. I constantly crave some me time but then when I get it I often miss my little shadow. There’s no pleasing me. #ablogginggoodtime
It can be so hard to get personal space as a parent – especially when you can’t even go to the bathroom alone! Sometimes even just a few free minutes is enough to help me relax and re-balance myself – if I can get them. #ablogginggoodtime
Love this post! My kiddies are now grown, but I have four dogs and so I’m back to square one! Personal space as a concept has eluded each and every one. Having a damp nose resting on my saucer has (almost) become normal. But then it feels so quiet and lonely when they aren’t harassing my about something or other! Madness! xx
Ahhh yes the elusive personal space. That’s why I think it’s so important for mums to schedule in me-time otherwise we just don’t get it and then eventually our moods take a turn and then it has a massive knock on effect on the house because we are walking around like a caged tiger as you say! Hope you manage to schedule in some personal space soon lovely and thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub xx
As an introvert I feel your pain. Quiet, alone time is essential for me but it went out of the window as soon as Small Boy came along. Now my shower and morning routine is normally spent with him trying to brush my hair for me, my tea is usually cold, and my reading is typically a Peppa Pig storybook rather than a novel. I wouldn’t change any of that, but I do wish sometimes I could teleport to a quiet island for half an hour and relax, safe in the knowledge that everything was ok without me. #aBloggingGoodTime
i’m with you re the energy thing. On those days when i’m in a grump more things go wrong, people around me are less helpful, things get broken etc. You do the right thing to fake it and let it pass. tum – ti -tum – twiddle – dee -dee (PS my hair ‘style’ is that of Worzel Gummidge… no-one would know if I ‘d had time to ‘sort it’ or not!) #ablogginggoodtime
I’ve been heard to mutter under my breath when called for an “emergency missing sock” that the caller must have detected that I was about to accomplish something . . .
It does seem that they can tell!
Parenting and personal space are at opposite ends of the spectrum. It’s one or the other.
Me time…..hum what’s that?? Yes, it’s teicky trying to get everyone out the door in time for school. Luckily, I don’t do that as I’m in school for 7.30am so Hubbie does that part! Much easier all round! Fun post. #ablogginggoodtime
Parents everywhere can relate! #bloggingoodtime
This made me smile, resonates with me. But the timed 20 minute hug is absolutely adorable! #ablogginggoodtime
Oh I know that feeling of wanting to scream but putting on a brave face and singing! It’s hard work, but you’re doing a great job xx #abloggingoodtime
I absolutely know this feeling Mac! We must give off a vibe. Bring it on ourselves!! When you have time to spare they are busy doing their own thing – always. Yet, be unavailable and they are there. This happened last night when I explained to my daughter that I was working and needed an hour. Cue 200 questions, interruptions and needs – all totally unrelated and could wait. Huffing off on being told ‘not now’?! I think there’s some reverse psychology here perhaps?
Thanks for sharing with #tweensteensbeyond
I know just how you feel…and teens don’t like to be told that I am busy. I mean, what could I possibly be doing that is more important than them!? At least I do get to go to the loo on my own but often have people barking questions at me through the door! Thanks so much for sharing with us at #TweensTeensBeyond
I hear you Mackenzie! I fight for my ‘me-time’ just lately. I work from home and homeschool my boys so I have to try and make time to rejuvenate (and try and keep my sanity too) hehe!
I hope you manage to get some well deserved ‘me time’ soon 🙂
Thanks for sharing with #MMBC. Have a lovely weekend and I hope to see you Monday x
Ah I can certainly relate to the last point where little one has a tantrum. Usually it’s my youngest that has full blown meltdown’s. I do love the cuddles in bed in a morning that’s the best. #ablogginggoodtime
Luckily for me “personal space” is something that my teens do seem to get and now relish telling me to respect their personal space if I dare to try to interrupt them or ask them to do something when they are getting ready – revenge is sweet as they say – sure they are paying me back for the years of me quoting this at them. Thanks for joining us Mac. #TweensTeensBeyond
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