Always be impeccable with your words and actions because she remembers everything.
Mark Anthony
I like this quote, it makes me think about my two amazing daughters and how to each word I say they are listening. My words and my actions are interpreted by their minds. I am their number one role model, they watch me when I am not even aware, and they listen when I don’t think they are listening. During the talk I attended with Steve Biddulph, he asked the audience to put up their hands if there is something they wish to change about the way they look? All but 2 people put up their hands. I put up my hand. I have come a long way and I feel very comfortable with my looks and who I am, but in saying that if I was asked by a magic fairy “would I wish for a flatter stomach?” I would say “yes”. One of my friends was actually surprised I put up my hand, as despite the fact I know I could do with some weight loss I am pretty confident about my body and I don’t let it hold me back. If I want to wear a bikini when swimming with my hubby I will.
But Steve Biddulph made a great point, he said if we put ourselves down, if we make negative comments about our bodies, or go on constantly about dieting, our fat thighs, or our need to lose weight, then how can we expect our daughters to like their bodies? How can we expect our sons to respect women’s bodies? If we want to raise healthy girls with good self images then we need to start with ourselves!
As much as I love the above quote, and its message I felt that it was lacking something. I agree with what it is saying and I am so passionate about what I say about my body around my children and the messages I send to them about self confidence, self love and respect for themselves and for others. But I also think we need to show our children that we are ‘human’. We make mistakes, we make wrong choices, and I think it is OK to show our children that we have faults. I think it is empowering to admit to my daughters and son that mummy makes mistakes, but I work hard to fix them or move on from them. I like them to know that sometimes I get down or grumpy and that if I cry it doesn’t mean I am weak. I want them to know that I fight for what I believe in and for what is right. And I fight for me! I want them to see I am passionate, determined, wonderful and that I make mistakes.
I believe that there are times we need to show our greatest weakness in order to show & embrace our greatest strength.
Mackenzie Glanville
So I decided to search for another Mark Anthony quote that sat better with my own beliefs. I still agree with the quote at the top of this post, but like I said, for me something was missing. I found this quote below and I had to share it with you, as I hope that by watching me my daughters will learn to turn their failures into their success in life.
What made her invincible is the way she’d turn a failure into a lesson and her lessons into success.
Mark Anthony.
Thank you for joining me, love Mackenzie xx
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29 comments
The first one is a nice sentiment but a big ask- little too much pressure for my liking. Much prefer the second. Thanks for hosting!
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yes I agree xx
None of us are perfect no matter how hard we try to be the best mum and wife and agree its good to show our children are imperfections top #mg
Thank you for commenting, you are right we conniver be perfect and to try only makes us feel like we are failing
The second quote is far more doable for me! We put ourselves under so much pressure as it is, it is good to let our children see us as our authentic selves and then hopefully they will feel free to be who they really are. Thank you for hosting Mac xx
Yes I think you make good point, I don’t want my kids to think they can’t make mistakes or live up to the ideal that their parents were perfect so they have to be.
We are role models however we are also human. We can teach our children by example even if sometimes the lesson is what we have learned through our mistakes. Happy Easter to you and your family xxx
Thanks Sue, happy Easter to you to. Yes we are human, I think little children put us on a pedestal and as they age they realise we are only human after all
What a great quote! I need to be more mindful of this at the moment as my daughter is clearly picking up on more and more of what I say. #CandidCuddles
oh they do, it is amazing how much they pick up even when we think they are not listening, they usually are. Thanks for stopping by xx
It’s a big ask, but he’s right, we don need to think very carefully about the messages we give our children about body image etc. Even without realising! Thank you for such a thought provoking post
Yes as a child my mum was always negative about her body and it did contribute to a lot of my negative thoughts, it took me a long time to realise that I didn’t need to carry her baggage
I love both of those quotes! And many thanks for the feature again =) Makes me work a little harder after I get a feature. Gotta keep up appearances!
you are very welcome. It was a great post xx
Great post so lovely. I really love both quotes. Sarah #mg
Oh thanks lovely xx
I love the idea of this and yet in theory we ARE human and there will be times when we struggle to maintain it! I am very careful about the things that I say around my children and yet there are times when I forget or something just slips out, and believe me, my kids NEVER forget those times!!! Another lovely post, thank you for hosting. #mg
I love the quotes, especially the Mark Anthony one. Words are so powerful!
Sally @ Life Loving
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I love the second quote better too! We are imperfect beings…and so are our children and grandchildren. They will watch and learn as we work through our humanity to become good people in bad situations. They will be empowered with our examples and hopefully, not feel overwhelmed when they are faced with something similar. I think they need to witness the process of us working through something.
I prefer the second quote to the first. I think it is important to let our children know it is ok to make mistakes and teach them how to learn and grow from them. I totally agree with the body image thing, my mum has always been on a diet and now I feel that if I don’t stay thin I won’t be happy..I’m not blaming my mum but I don’t think her constant dieting & saying she was fat when really she’s a healthy weight helped my confidence at all . Thanks for hosting xx#mg
You’re right and it’s something I’m becoming uncomfortably aware in all sorts of ways. My eldest is starting to find her way and struggling with learning how to express frustration without teeth or withdrawal.
I’ve seen how some people have responded to that by focusing their attention on the ‘easier’ brother and starting to play favourites rather than make an effort to find out what’s happening and how they can help her.
A lot of my life lessons come from games and one is the Walking Dead game where your choices change the flow of the game, the people you encounter and how they respond to you. The hook is always ‘Clementine will remember that’ and seeing those words flick up on screen is a little dagger to remind the player that their words and actions have consequences for those that witness them or experience them. Life doesn’t have that warning but it’s one that I bear in mind when I’m with my kids.
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Great quotes and great post! I worry about my daughter and what my body image will do to hers. x
My eldest daughter is just beginning to become aware of social pressures and expectations surrounding appearances and I am very careful about what I say and the message I give.
I do agree that it’s ok to let your kids see you make mistakes. Seeing how you fix it is a lesson for them. So many people rush in to fix everything that is wrong that I do wonder if younger people are less able to cope with life because they are not used to seeing what can go wrong and how to deal with situations. #abrandnewday
HI Mac,
A lovely post and I totally agree with you. We are all too hard on ourselves. I made a pledge this year that for 2016 I would cut myself some slack. Some days I manage it. Often I don’t. I wish we were programmed differently sometimes!
Anyway, thanks for a thought provoking post. I enjoyed the read and I would love to hear more about your talk from Steve Biddulph. I have read his book about Raising Boys.
Pen xx
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I think it is so important to show a good example to our children. Body confidence is a big issue but being confident in your body regardless of what you look like is difficult when we are surrounded by media and the like. I think as long you can reflect from the quote and fill your children with love and security then we can’t go too wrong! Thanks for linking #ABrandNewDay
Both quotes are fab! I love the second one about turning failure into lessons. And so true – kids don’t forget. I agree it’s good to let them see us as a human, doing the best we can! You don’t realize when you are little though, your parents are these super human figures. #mg #candidcuddles x
I am always cautious about my wording when it comes to my body image. I have 2 girls as well and they are complete opposites. Ones a tomboy and ones a princess. The tomboy can hold her own…she likes her hair short and wears boys clothes and when little mean girls ask her in their snobby voices “Are you a boy or a girl” she either won’t answer them and just roll her eyes and walk away or she’ll say “does it matter?” She’s 4. My other one however, is very sensitive but makes friends easily. I always want them to love who they are and be confident. Confidence is the key. I have a lot of it now so I hope that it wears off on them. Thanks for hostessing the lovely #mg!
I love all three quotes, for different reasons. The first really resonates with me as I know I have a long way to go in being “impeccable” with what I say in front of my daughter. The second is a little more realistic! The third is really something to aspire to. Thanks for sharing! #CandidCuddles
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