Aspen has attended many parties before. Of course they started off as family parties, followed by sweet little kinder parties where they would dress up with fairy wings. When she started school it seemed we had a party to attend almost every weekend. It was a great way for me to get to know the other children she would be growing up with and their parents. It really helped her with her social skills too. She had always been so shy and watching her blossom was beautiful, and made me so proud.
Now in high school she seems to have constant parties again. Most have been great, fairly intimate get togethers that I have been comfortable with. Tonight she is attending a larger party though, and I am not sure I feel comfortable with it. I actually felt fine when I said she could go, but as today arrived I started feeling quite stressed about it. With over 100 kids invited, including boys, I am just feeling like things are moving too fast (maybe for me more than her). She is 13, and I know I went to loads of parties at her age too, and maybe that is the problem I remember teenage parties too well.
I know I am over thinking! I am, aren’t I? Please tell me I am being silly worrying? I want to be a fly on the wall, making sure my baby is OK. Gosh they think they are so grown up at 13 and they are just so young and vulnerable. She has great friends, she is smart and she is still young at heart compared to many children her age, but I just feel like maybe I should have kept her home. But I can not hold her back, can I? She has to spread her wings, she has to learn things and live her own life. This is her story, her journey. I will do my best to guide her, and be there for her, but she is her own person.
She looked so beautiful when her and her lovely friend left for the party. I am over thinking. I am still learning to accept that I now have a teen. So tonight I will hope she has an amazing night, that she dances and laughs and feels beautiful inside and out. As for me, here at home, I will hug my two younger ones tight and count my blessings that I get to be mummy to these 3 amazing kids!
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Reading this, makes me realise that having teenage boys is so much less stressful than having girls, I wouldn’t allow my boys to have a party at home without an adult being present though as I would be concerned about my home being wrecked #satsesh@_karendennis
These shots are all beautiful. And Mac, you are not overthinking. My Big is off at a slumber party (9 and 10-year-olds) and I miss her so! She was so happy heading off with her sleeping bag and unicorn pj’s in tow! She is still there probably eating chocolate chips with a little bit of pancake. She will be a mess (too tired) when she gets back and then she has 3 hours of Nutcracker practice. Where did the time go! <3 <3 Big hugs to you! #FabFridayPost xoxo
I feel the same – my daughter is 11 ans now at high school. The parties she has been to so far have been fine but I am dreading the soon to come parties. Yes, I remember being 13 too and going to discos with boys etc. I agree we have to let them but I can’t help but over-think things too. Sarah #fabfridaypost
Love the photo of the 2 children holding hands in the #mummyshot collection. I think I am going to be just like you when my kids start going to teen parties I remember all too well how I was too- yikes! #thesatsesh xx
I can understand how you feel. I think I would also have said yes and then sit home stirring over it. Being a parent is so bloody hard!!! Love the photos and thank you for sharing with #StayClassysmama
The next time I grumble at yet another kids princess party, I’m going to remember this post! I shudder at the thought of my girls growing up and going to teenage parties – because I know what a nightmare I was! Let’s hope they are more sensible than we were 😉
Thanks for sharing with #coolmumclub
That’s like one of the most dreaded words you don’t want to hear when you have a teen. Parties. Nah, I’m just exaggerating. Of course, it can make you worry for your teen . We are protective, of course. But I trust the. I know they will not do anything stupid. That’s how I am with my children but my worry is what if the other teens in the party would cause them harm. That’s why we have this emergency plan too. They will send me a text message and that will signal me to call them or pick them up. But I also tell them to have a good time. We were teenagers once, too. Who would give them good advice but us, right?
Oh crikey – I suppose I have this to look forward to!! #coolmumclub
I used to think that letting my daughter take new, independent steps was something that needed to be done so she could grow. Now I realise that maybe it’s so both of us can grow. I have been in your shoes and know well the tick tock of the clock as you count down the minutes until she comes home. I hope all went well! Sending love! xx
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Oh gosh I am a fellow over-thinker when it comes to teen parties. There are just so many potential thanks that can go wrong. As their social circle widens, they end up in places that you aren’t familiar with and with people that you don’t now. This will inevitably make us anxious. All you can do is trust that you have provided her with the judgement and common sense to deal with whatever arises. Thanks so much for sharing with us at #TweensTeensBeyond
It’s a worrisome sort of age, isn’t it? But then I think they all are, and this is just another stage of growing up and spreading wings. Having said that, I still worry when my 20 year old is out late at night 🙁 #tweensteensbeyond
Having a daughter of a similar age, I totally understand how you feel. Hopefully, by the time you read this it will all be done and dusted and you are back to resting easy. I guess we do have to trust the fact that we have instilled a good sense in them but they are very young. Such a large group and people and other children that we don’t know is always going to be a worry and I will be joining you on this journey very soon, I am sure. Thanks for sharing with #tweensteensbeyond
Oh Mac I can remember my eldest going to his first party and how anxious I was all night until he returned in one piece ! My youngest hasn’t been to a “big” party yet and I am dreading it. She is capable, mature and sensible just like her brother so it doesn’t make any sense and my husband thinks I am nuts but it’s just in my genes to imagine the worst. Letting go is hard however much we have prepared them and us for it. I hope Aspen had a lovely time. #TweensTeensBeyond
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