I sent my friend a text earlier asking how Saturday went, as I had received a frantic message from her on Saturday.
Basically her husband had received tickets to an Under The Stars Gala in a very exclusive area where all the ‘rich’ people hang out, the tickets were worth a fortune and he was given them for free, and oops for got to tell her until the last minute! She was at work with no time to book a hairdresser, buy a dress or have her nails done, but at least her babysitter was available! She felt so lucky to be going, but was freaking out, she wrote to me
“who does this to a woman?” and added “especially ME!”
It’s true, she is what I would call a perfectionist (actually that’s putting it mildly), and always has to look her best (which to be honest isn’t hard for her as yes she is one of “those” incredibly annoying, oops I mean beautiful women). But a man telling a woman last minute would stress any woman out! But when it comes to my friend it would have just about sent her crazy!
She wrote back today to tell me it all went great, and yet now she is stressing about a whole different matter. Her mother-in-law is coming to stay next weekend! Now it’s not that she doesn’t like her mother in-law, it is that she wants everything to be perfect when she comes to stay. But she is totally stressed as she is working every day leading up to the mother in-laws arrival!
I text her back assuring her the her house will look fabulous because seriously my friends idea of messy is any other persons idea of clean, she is a clean freak! I have never seen a mess in her home and she has two boys! I also told her to “just drink some wine and RELAX!”
Any way my point is that we worry so much about things, don’t we? I can make light of what my friend is saying, but the truth be told I would stress in these situations too, so is it just my friend and I that are weird? Or are we all stressing way too much about way too many things?
Just this morning I have been thinking about all the ‘things‘ I need to do! I feel completely behind in almost everything right now! I had a great weekend, but some of the things I wanted to achieve just didn’t happen, like the huge pile of washing I wanted to get through and the ironing that is still sitting in the laundry and mocks me every time I walk in there. Last night I had to quickly wash and dry the school uniforms so my kids don’t look unloved!
But then again I had a great weekend and so did the kids. We had time with friends on Saturday and even had dinner out just hubby, Adam and I, whilst April (pictured below) ,and Aspen were at parties,
and on Sunday Adam graduated from Ninja’s to a Commando at Taekwondo and family came back to our place to celebrate. So does it matter that everything is now more disorganised than I hoped it would be come Monday morning?
Maybe? Maybe not?
What do you think?
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You’re so right hun! I used to be a terrible worry wart but since having Josh I’ve taken a real step back and prioritised because life is just too short. Just relax and drink some wine is the best advice ever 🙂 xx #mg
I agree, kids make us realise we just can’t have a clean home EVER lol
I used to be so chilled out but since having Children I definitely stress more, in fact some mornings I just feel an overwhelming sense of stress for the day ahead. I am trying to address this as I don’t want to be stressing all the time – seriously if some days I am late it doesn’t really matter does it? Great post lovely #mg
The teachers where my kids go to school actually told us parents that they would rather the kids be late than come in stressed because mummy or daddy were driving stressed or yelling at the kids, I try and take that on board and we are running late somedays then the world will keep running xx
I’m a worrier too even though it does nothing to help. Although my husband is worse because he looks at the negative in every situation so gives himself plenty to worry about #mg
It really doesn’t help, in fact when I stress it usually stops me being productive. I am a stressed but I am trying to chill out more
I always feel stressed if stuff isn’t done by a Monday morning, but it doesn’t really matter! Even if my house is tidy on a Monday morning it’s a mess by lunchtime! Thanks for hosting #mg again! X
haha love it, so true it doesn’t stay organised for long does it!
I have always been a worrier, and suffering with anxiety only fuels that, but actually I am very laid back when it comes to the children – possibly too much so! It always amuses people how laid back I am but for me my worries are for the ridiculous and obscure things in life and day to day things really don’t bother me so much! I wish I worried a little more about the house work though….as does my husband! #mg
I love that you are laid back with your kids, I used to get so stressed and I think it made them worriers, since I’ve relaxed more I have noticed Aspen relaxing more too.
I think it’s okay but I worry too. If I’m not able to do the things I plan, I become restless and frustrated. Just yesterday my whole plan and routine messed up when my 10-month-old decided she won’t take a nap in the afternoon. The result, I was cranky and I couldn’t get my writing done as well. But I guess chaos is part of the life of a mother, or a woman and we need to live with it, either worrying or not 🙂
it’s so hard when they don’t nap as we need that mental break and I remember I always found that so hard when they didn’t nap. It is part of life and we do have to know that, but it can still be exhausting and it’s OK to say it’s hard being a mum because it really is.
I come across as very calm on the outside, but on the inside I worry about everything. This week I am worried about my sons first day at school, sewing my daughters Brownies badges on and various other tiny things. I think it’s human nature. Sarah #mg
It is human nature for sure and when it comes t our children it can go into overdrive. I think it is really only problem when it starts to really affect our joy in life and affect those around us in a negative way. Thanks for the comment Sarah and hope it all went well for your son!
We definitely do! If I know someone’s coming round I’ll always have a quick clean, even though our house is always clean and tidy. I think I have relaxed a bit though. I never used to go out without makeup, but now regularly rock up at the school gates in gym gear and a bare face. #mg
I am very much the same, I always made sure I had makeup on, but now occasionally I am seen without makeup too
HA! My whole post today is all about worrying and stressing; I tend to ratchet up the fears and worries when my kids are sick. Not that it helps anything but I just can’t seem to help it.
That’s one of my big stresses too, when the kids are sick I find it hard to cope. Hope they feel better soon xo
Even I am surprised but I don’t get worried over small things not done on specified time – I just shift them to do it later by waking up early or staying up late. I get worried only when we don’t reach somewhere on time and let someone wait for us. For Writing part, I keep 2-3 drafted posts ready so that I could publish them as Fillers in case I don’t have time to think over and write.
oh you are so good! I need to keep more drafted posts!
I’d say as long as you’ve had fun and made memories, what does it matter. But deep down I know that the chaos would nag me!
so true!
Oh Mac, how right you are. The only laundry I know worry about is having clean underwear for the next day for us all! Clean house? Eff that — not if you want to be making memories with the little kinder. There is always something to worry about and I am turning my hair whiter by the minute. It has to STOP! Great post. I will try to breathe it in. #mg
haha yes dirty underwear! I have learnt to go with the flow more over the years since having kids. When Aspen was a baby I drove myself nuts, but had to learn to stop worrying about the perfect house after number 3 came along!
I am really bad at fretting over the small things. Even before my anxiety was bad I was a sucker for details, and nowadays I fall apart if I dont know there where/when/why etc.
I am however far less likely to worry about leavingthe house a little messy of there being a few dishes in the sink if there is something more enjoyable I could be doing with the hubby. Life is too short to stress over dirty dishes. #MG
For me it is when things pile up that I get overwhelmed, I can handle little messes, but if there is too much I don’t know where to start!
I definitely worry and stress too much, it’s difficult though isn’t it? I think it’s ok to be behind as spending time with family is so much more important. Great achievement for Adam too! #mg
oh thanks Emma he was so proud of himself which was so cute xx
I’ve always been such a worrier, mostly over the tiniest things. Hubs is always telling me that things will turn out OK. I should listen to him, he’s usually right!
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yes I tend to be the one to stress about small things where as hubby more worries about the bigger thing like finance and paying for the school fees etc
I think this is just oh so true! I have to use every fibre in my body to stop myself worrying about things sometimes, because once I start…You are so right about it ruining the good times that you have. I have to tell myself to enjoy the moment and not to worry about tomorrow and then when tomorrow comes, not to be cross that I relaxed so much that today is that little bit harder! A really good post. Alison x #AnythingGoes
so true, it’s Ok when you can get out of the house and not se it all, but then the next day it’s like oh no!
Back with #mg too – it’s good to be back 🙂 Alison x
thanks gorgeous
Oh dear! We all stress about things that really don’t matter in the larger scheme of things. Do you think it’s all about trying to control our teeny weeny part of the Universe. Letting go and living is easier said than done, but I’m trying!
absolutely I think we are trying to control a small part of the universe. I often say when my mind is messy I need a tidy house because otherwise it all feels too much
I am not a worrier, in fact I often tell my hubbie not to worry….what is the point in worrying as it gets you absolutely nowhere. If you want something, make it happen, if you don’t, change, be positive and happy and anything is possible! #mg
oh I love your attitude! If you could bottle that up I’ll buy some from you
I’ve been known to worry and stress so much that my mum once bought me a mug saying ‘morning…let the stress begin’. Now I try and look at it from the pov of my dad. ie. today was a great day as we all survived. #mg
oh gosh that mug! I could have been given that, but yes I agree we survived the day and that’s pretty awesome isn’t it!
I’m on the same boat as you, I worry a lot as well.. I would like to think I can control everything but I can’t. I think we should not be too hard on ourselves, we should just relax and go with flow sometimes and finally enjoy life. #mg
so true Cheryl I am trying to go with the flow more
Oh that’s me all over. I worry about things and people all the time – even when it doesn’t really matter and they wouldn’t notice at all. I do realise I miss out on so many happy moments because of that. But I’m working on it and I like to think I’m a tad better than what i used to be.
yes let’s hope we can enjoy more of those happy moments and stress less
Those days my Mom would often advise me to pause and reflect, and ask myself whether the thing I worried about would really matter so much a month from now. Inside our heads, we have such a sense of perfectionism installed that we feel guilty to deviate. I’ve learned the hard way to let go and just focus on the present moment. Somehow things do work out, don’t they, and if not, at least we haven’t wasted too much energy on them. 🙂 Love to you, Mac!
thank you beautiful lady. Your mum was so wonderfully wise I love that advice xx
I try hard and look at what I have to deal with that day but I do worry and stress about things. Normally to do with my boys but work aswell as it plays a big part in our lives because it’s a 24hr thing. I love blogging and the world that I move in when I’m there as its such a relaxation for me. To kick back and relax is great when it happens:) x
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glad to hear you are loving the blogging world, it has been so good for me too.
I used to worry all the time before I had my 7 month old. Now not so much so if it’s nothing to do with her. I take it as it comes! xx
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great advice!
I do think that we, as women, have to tendency to overthink things and “sweat the small stuff.” I’m not sure why, but I know we do. Maybe it’s just something within our DNA that makes it harder for us to simply live in the moment more and just go with the flow. Interesting read!
Thanks Ericka, yes it’s funny I often feel I sweat the small stuff and cope better with the big things, weird
Personally, I don’t stress about these things – I go on the ‘ignorance is bliss’ approach!! But you are absolutely correct, in saying that we (as a race), do stress about things WAY too much. As far as the cleaning goes, my wife would be like that about the house. For me, while I like to keep the place in order, my ‘clean’ vs her ‘clean’ are literally worlds apart (see http://thestentedpapa.com/2016/08/05/he-cleans-she-cleans/ for proof :-)) Mindfullness meditation is great for helping with stress, maybe your friend should look into that? I’m laughing at the fact that the hubby ‘forgot’ to tell his wife until the last minute, that’s me all over! As my Dad always said to me when I was younger, ‘Don’t panic son – if we do, it’ll be organised’ 🙂 Great read. #mg
haha you’re dad is cool! I will have to read the link you gave me! Yes mindfulness is pretty awesome when it comes to focusing on the present and not stressing about what is often out of our control anyway, thanks Ross
I think I am better at not sweating the small stuff now we have the kids. But I can still get myself all worked up about what to wear. Reckon that must just be a woman thing #EatSleepBlogRt
haha yes, we do seem to worry about what to wear a bit too much don’t we
I think I would stress about the mother in law thing too, but not so much the short notice for a night out – I usually find those spontaneous nights are the best nights! It would be good to just be relaxed about things and not care what anyone thinks!
Thanks for linking up to #AnythingGoes 🙂
Debbie
you have an awesome attitude Debbie I love it! So true about those last minute nights being the best though I agree, it was a last minute dinner party where I met my hubby actually!
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