Change isn’t always easy, in fact it can be one of the things many people find themselves most uncomfortable with in life. It can be easier to keep going with the status quo, or even stay in unhealthy relationships or situations because the thought of such a huge change in your life like being single again can terrify us. Then there are times we feel we are ready for some big changes. Once you have reached a place where you feel ready to make changes in your life, it is time to really think about what changes, or goals are most important to you!
It is easy to think of a million things you want, a great job, a new lover, a bigger house, a healthier life, a wedding ring, a holiday, a baby, but when you really dig deep, when you allow you mind and body to be silent and listen to your inner voice, you will truly hear what it is that you want. There is one thing above all else that you crave. So just how do you figure out what that one thing is?
Stop.
Be still.
Allow yourself to just breathe.
Don’t rush it. Most likely it is something that has been building up inside you most of your life, but maybe you haven’t listened. Take the time now to listen. Listen to yourself. Think of your mind as a blank note book, and imagine filling its pages with whatever you wish.
Find a quiet space. If you can I suggest you go for a walk somewhere peaceful, or find a quiet space somewhere at home when no one is home to disturb you. Turn off your phone, maybe light some candles or take a bath. Just relax with your thoughts. If it doesn’t come to you straight away you may just not be ready to hear it. That’s OK, there is no rush. Imagery helps, if you can’t go somewhere beautiful, you can imagine you are somewhere peaceful in your mind.
Find time each day to focus on your breath. It may be whilst you ride the train to work, maybe it is during your shower, walking your dog, or whilst you lay quietly in your bed at night. Don’t try and force it to come to you, just open your mind to it.
If what you truly want still isn’t coming to you may need to work on believing you deserve positive change in your life, before you can open yourself up to the change you wish for.
Sometimes what we thought we wanted was not what we end up wanting. Don’t hang on to a dream that you no longer need, don’t waste energies on the things that don’t fulfil you. Sometimes we make things far more complicated than they need to be.
Ask yourself what is most important to you. And focus on all areas of your life, don’t be bogged down with thinking it needs to be a huge goal. We often think we have to jump in and make big changes all at once, we don’t. Just ease yourself into change.
Think about what makes your heart happy, think about what makes you feel like smiling. Think about your soul and ask yourself what fills it will joy? What do you want emotionally? What do you want spiritually? What makes your heart sing?
You deserve happiness, you deserve fulfilment. Believe in your dreams and believe you can turn them into your reality. Go ahead and catch your dream!
18 comments
So true, MG.
This is one question that takes time to figure out and still mustn’t be rushed. Life is a series of these questions one turn at a time.
I think you’re absolutely right that the thing we want is often something that’s been bubbling away in our heads and hearts a while . Always a big step to name is and focus on getting it !! #mg
What a beautiful post. When I do yoga, this is exactly what I do.. concentrate on my own breath.
So hard sometimes to identify the dream among the noise. I’ll give it a go on the way home for work and see what I get 🙂 Have a lovely week!
Mackenzie, it’s so true that the whole constellation of longings we experience point back to an underlying hole in our hearts. The trick is not to stuff that hole full of lesser things and end up missing God’s voice.
This is such a beautiful post! You’ve captured the essence of what it takes to find our soul deep answers beautifully. A lot of quiet time, reflection, a willingness to allow in the good, and patience.
Sound advice. I’ve needed to stop and ‘listen’ properly a couple of times in the last few years. At the moment I know where I want to be and what I (we) need, and am working on solidifying this new life of ours. Thank you for the inspirational and encouraging feeling of this post xx
I am still figuring out what i want .. chasing after futile goals that don’t really matter to me.. trying to stand up to the expectations of my parents and relatives ..while not knowing where i am headed to in life…
Still figuring out things…
Loved this piece… There’s no need to rush! That’s so good to read, an assurance of sorts….
These days i am waiting for results of compititions, and just breathing and writing…
Great advice as ever Amckenzie – I love the way you write such a serene post. Sarah #mg
Hi Mac,
I spent a week on a leadership course last week. It was all about being a mindful leader at work and taking the time to focus on what is important, not necessarily in a work context, but in life and in terms of our values. I guess the principle behind the course is that leaders who are in touch with their values, and who are conscious of who they are, what they stand for and what they want to be, make better leaders.
I was back at work today and all of sudden I was thrust back into the rat race and tactical to do lists. Your post has just calmed me down and taken me back to the calm and conscious place that I was in on my course.
Thank you.
Pen x #mg
I need to take you advise. I need to stop and breath. Give my mind some time. I have felt rushed for so long now I have got into a certain way. Thank you for writing this. x
Change can be very scary as we get comfortable in our rut but its whats needed to get up higher and ahead in out life’s journey. Things are always getting shaken up when we get complacent.
I need that quiet time to think, I am not good with change but do try to challenge myself now and again 😉 X #ablogginggoodtime
This is true. Most of the time before we can hear or move forward with that change that we need, we have to stop and take small steps to clear the path towards that change. #ablogginggoodtime
Love this post – noticing the breath seems such a simple thing but it is oh so powerful isn’t it?! You’re right about asking the question about ‘what makes your heart sing?’ Thanks for the boost and inspiration. #ablogginggoodtime xx
This is so true Mac! I am in between several things I want to do and I have been meditating on them for awhile. Like changing my blog name, trying to rearrange my schedule to fit more writing in and such like that. Changes can be scary but they are also necessary as we evolve throughout our lives, learning and growing. Another great post again Mac! Thanks for hosting #mg
Still haven’t figured that out #ablogginggoodtime
I often feel that connecting with nature or writing things out leads to the answer. I do hope you are ok. Thanks for hosting #mg
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