Don’t tolerate people in your life that don’t treat you well! Stop listening to people who put you down, and who clearly don’t have good intentions. If there are people who are a toxic presence in your life then it is time to shut those relationships down, or at the very least create clear boundaries. Learn how to say “no” to people, and to doing things that cause you distress, or put you in a situation that goes against your core values and beliefs.
Image courtesy of @familyof5ive_ one of my favourite images from #livingfearlesslyauthentic this week.
Ok, so I know it is so simple, it is not easy to shut out everyone who is unpleasant in your life. Sometimes we are forced to deal with people who we wish we didn’t have to. Like an ex-partner who we share children with, or a family member we have to see at large family gatherings. But there are many people who we put up with, and deal with who we can avoid most of the time, or even better never see again. Yet we continue to put up with people who are bad for our mental health because we feel guilty saying no, or because we feel obligated to them. Well enough! Give yourself permission to stop being dragged down by people who are cruel, judgemental, people who are jealous of you, or trying to stop you achieving good things for yourself. Set clear boundaries for your own emotional health.
Setting healthy boundaries for yourself is treating yourself in a kind, and loving way, it is you taking care of you! When you stressed, crying, and hurting from someones behaviour towards you, not only will that bring you down, but the people you love are being affected too by seeing you suffering. You deserve better, you deserve to be happy! By setting clear boundaries you are loving yourself, and that is the best thing you can do!
Don’t ever let someone feel like they have the right to treat you badly, or disrespect you, including yourself.
Start giving yourself permission to take care of YOU!
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic, or hear what you have done in order to deal with toxic people you may, or may no longer have in your life? Please leave me a comment below.
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Bottom Right was shared by @thelondonmum
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17 comments
Thank you so much for featuring me!!
This post made me a little emotional as I have had similar issues the last few months which has affected me more than I realised. It is so hard to not be affected by the actions of others but I know I must learn to move on. Such a perfect quote for me right now. xxx
I’m so sorry to hear that lovely, you’re right it is hard, but trust me we have to distance ourselves from such negative people who drain us. You do deserve better xx
If you could see me reading your post, you would know I was nodding all along. I have cut off a lot of things which have been hurting me emotional. And it includes people and even social media. I realised it’s upto me to do away with everyone who doesn’t deserve my time in any form.
Absolutely, glad you are looking after yourself.
Fab post I love it! I’ve never really ‘ended’ a toxic relationship but I’ve had ones die their own death and the person has since tried to reconcile but I let it lie. Love that soul quote. So true x
yes sometimes it is better not to go back into those relationships. Take care xx
I’m going through these feelings right now Mackenzie so a very timely post for me. I find it difficult to let go of thoughts that way me down and have the attitude of ‘this is my time of life and I need to live it for me’. Thanks for the reminder and the link up. Have a great week lovely xx
oh honey I’m sorry to hear that, you are right, this is your life, and your time, enjoy those beautiful moments and celebrate the beautiful person you are xx
You are right. Quite often we don’t stop to think whether we really need such people in our lives and go on on giving them more than their share of importance. Being kind to yourself is ever so necessary. So glad I managed to link up this week :-).
Actually crying at this. Today I have sobbed down the phone to my poor husband and it all came down to how people treat me. Like you say it is time to say no and set boundaries.
Thank you
#anythinggoes
I am rarely able to keep a relationship alive with untruthful, manipulative, jealous people.I end up moving away.My emotional health I guard very closely.That keeps me the whole and working.Less irritating people I create a barrier w.if I have to interact.A very difficult topic
Mac this resonates with me on a couple of levels. My daughter had to deal with an incredibly toxic friendship around this time last year and what a difference it has made getting rid of that girl from her life. They still speak but there is no real relationship there. Similarly I have found myself being quite ruthless recently. I generally steer away from those that drag me down emotionally but this year more so. It is actually quite uplifting. Thanks for hosting. x
Yes Mac, all of this! I had a friend who was very negative, brought me down each and every time I saw her, even from her texts. And as for her cryptic facebook statuses, don’t get me started! When she wasn’t whinging it was worse because she was being false! So I ditched her… Lovely pics btw and thanks for hosting #mg
This post was very timely. Thanks Mac for writing it. Just what I needed to hear right now.
I just went through this and as painful as it maybe it’s best to cut the cords, send love to the person who hurt you and then let them fall off from your life.
Only then can one attract good things and positive people in ones life.
Much love xoxo
Thanks a lot for selecting my post, MG. I am honored.
Your message though written a few days ago is right on point for me today. Thank you.♥
I agree with you completely – nothing can you bring you down as quickly as a toxic person. Surround yourself with people who love you for you and who celebrate your successes as you celebrate theirs.
Thanks for linking up to #AnythingGoes 🙂
Debbie
Boundaries is important really because it’s setting a line for people to respect you. Good read.
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