If you could erase one person from your past would you? It’s the kind of questions that immediately provokes a strong response in me, and I am guessing I am not alone? It is a really difficult question isn’t it? I mean when I see this question I immediately jump to the one person I would want to erase, without question this particular person comes to the forefront of my mind. My life would be completely different if this person had never entered my life, but here in lies the dilemma . . . If this person was erased wouldn’t that completely change the course of my life? And what if erasing this person from my past meant changing all the great things that happened in my past and all the beautiful people I have in my life now?
There is no doubt that this person was a horrible person by anyones standards, but to erase them would mean to change the person I am today, a stronger, more independent and appreciative person, and I like who I am! If erasing this person means that I would change who I am now and change my path then I simply could not do that. To be where I am today, to have my amazing husband, my 3 adorable children, my friends I couldn’t risk erasing someone no matter how horrible they were if it jeopardised the life I lead now. I learnt many of my life lessons the hard way, but I have grown into who I am because of these lessons. If I could erase this person and it changed nothing in terms of being where I am today then YES I would, but I know that is impossible. I wouldn’t be where I am today if I didn’t go through what I went through to get here.
I have to trust that people come into your life for a reason, they teach you things and those things are not always wonderful. But I learnt that I had a choice, I could be a victim or I could take back my power and become a stronger person, that I could learn from my pain and even help others to deal with theirs.
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It is nice to fantasise about a life without cruel, horrible people and imagine that I could go back to the past and stop that person from hurting me, but it isn’t going to happen. So I choose to concentrate on my now and my future and let go of fear, pain and hate and let love and light into my heart. I choose to learn from my past, to embrace happiness , to live the life I have and find joy in every day.
What about you? Would you erase anyone if you could?
Thanks for doing me, love Mackenzie xx
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Well said. I would not erase anyone from my life for the reason that they were meant to be in my life and I was meant to learn things the hard way or whatever way with their presence. There is this thing that I heard some where and I keep on repeating –
Life is a set of rooms and each room has a certain set of people. You move from one room to the other and some people come along to the next room but some stay back. You meet a new set in the next room and they also either move ahead with you or not.
I had never thought of it like that, interesting!
I have erased people from my life through my own choice. Now years later we have reunited and I wonder why it took me so long. A lovely piece Mackenzie. Thank you for sharing at #fridayreflections
Thanks Sue xx
there’s one person who comes to mind – a good friend who became less than a good friend – I would still choosing distancing over erasing because she is the mother of one of my daughter’s closest friends and that would be erased too if I’d never known her. Really thought provoking post!
Distancing can be very necessary with some people
Aptly said, Mackenzie. I wrote on the same prompt. And yes, I would not erase anyone or anything from my past either.
thanks for linking up, I loved your post too
I’m not sure I would…to be honest I haven’t had anybody that awful come into my life that I would feel so strongly about. I think you are right – people like that make you who you are and you needed them sometimes. Interesting post xx #justanotherlinky
Thanks Sarah, you are lucky you have no one that horrible xx
Great post, my immediate reaction is yes but I wouldn’t want to change anything leading up to having Lucas x
It is a tricky one isn’t it?
Very well said. There are people in my life that I wish I had never met but if I hadn’t met them would I be where I am today? Thanks for linking up to #justanotherlinky xx
That’s the dilemma. I would love to have never met this person I wrote about, but not if it changed where I am today
I wouldnt erase anyone because as ypu say, your life experiences bring you to the point you are today, but there is someone who I havehad to errase all visable reminders of because thinking of them is just too painful. #justanotherlinky
yes me too, thanks for commenting xx
I would totally erase someone from my past. YES! no question about it!
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it is interesting that you take the opposite view to me, but believe me I get where you are coming from, some people are horrible!
I would definitely erase one maybe even two people from my life. I think I would have met my hubby anyway. If I could have escaped the bad experiences then I would no question. I don’t believe I would be a different person I would have just had less stress and drama in my life.
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That’s a nice thought, to believe we could be where we are today without the pain we’ve suffered, I would like that!
Darling Mackenzie! I almost picked this prompt – and had exactly the same thought process. I wouldn’t erase anyone simply because it would mean interfering with my own growth! Beautiful prompt and I love how you reflected on it!
I chose the picture prompt for my post. Although I must admit that each week all the prompts are super-fabulous.
Hugs and wishing you a lovely weekend Mac!
I loved your post this week, thank you for linking up xx
I completely agree – to change our past is to change the person we are. I strongly believe that every experience teaches us something even if it was a difficult lesson to learn at the time #justanotherlinky
some lessons are very difficult and painful, but they can make us stronger, wiser and a better person if we let them
I think it’s always best to focus on who you have become rather than the person you’d like to erase. I have such a person in my past who I’d like to erase but like you said, that would change who I am today. I would prefer to use the things they taught me to my advantage and become a stronger, better person. #justanotherlinky
Great point! Thanks for commenting x
Popping over from #justanotherlinky =) I don’t think I could erase someone, for the obvious reasons you stated. They helped shape me. But I could cut a toxic person out of my life. Come share your crafts, DIY’s, recipes & up-cycles at #2usestuesday (Mon PM to Fri PM) & your pinnable images at #Pinbellish (Fri AM to Tues AM) over at Sarah Celebrates if you don’t already!
I have erased one person out of my life because all she did was bring me down and bring negativity into my life every single day. My partner saw that I had changed in my ways, got very moody and miserable a lot more and I do blame that girl. I now haven’t seen or spoken to her for a very long time and things between me and my partner are much better.
I have another woman, my mother. I don’t think I would erase her out of my life but she has erased me and my two daughters out of her life. Not my choice, all her choice. I have now not seen her since Christmas eve.
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